Seniors drugged to death in nursing homes because they “ask for help”

The most-read post in this blog is one from May 2018, called “NEVER go into a nursing home to recover. You may never escape!” It gave the real story of what happened to my father who was drugged with anti-psychotics against both his will and his wife’s — just to make him docile.

Many people wrote with similar stories. But I also got denials that such a thing could ever happen. Despite the specific details given in the article.

Now the New York Times has done an excellent expose that verifies exactly what we found. It’s titled, “Phony Diagnoses Hide High Rates of Drugging at Nursing Homes.” Medicare requires nursing homes report how many of their residents are on anti-psychotic drugs — drugs which are called “chemical strait jackets” because they make people close to comatose — and thus those people require next to no attention from the nursing home staff. The problem is these drugs destroy quality of life for residents and nearly double their chance of death from heart problems, infections, falls and more.

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“Surprise bill” protections start Jan. 1, 2022

Senior,Old,Woman,Shocked,With,The,Bills,She,Receives,,AppalledFor decades, hospitals and medical providers have hidden what their costs will be from patients. AND they’ve hidden whether or not everyone in the hospital is an “in network provider” for the purposes of what they can charge. Typically anesthesiologists were out-of-network. They would band together in a “group” and provide services to hospitals — for which they can charge far more than the in-network amount. And when insurance covered only the in-network amount, patients got a bill — SURPRISE! — for thousands, sometimes tens of thousands, of dollars.

We posted about this in October 2018 — See “How your state lets insurance companies screw you.” At the time , Rep. Lloyd Doggett (D-Texas) and Sen. Bill Cassidy (R-La) had both introduced bills to protect us — but neither bill was passed.

Fortunately, the “No Surprises Act” was passed the end of 2020. It goes into effect for health plan years beginning on or after 1/1/2022. It applies to “nearly all” health insurance plans.

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A straightforward and utterly engaging one-stop guide to growing older.” – Kirkus Reviews

Blatant promotion for my new book — just published today. And a great holiday gift for your 50+ friend or family member(!)

Aging in our society is like stepping into an alternate universe! It looks the same, but it’s really not.

Unexpected dangers that could ruin the rest of your life:

–Medical professionals who think a three-question test is sufficient to label you mentally impaired.

–A broken guardianship program where a used-car dealer is made a judge — and he can declare you incompetent without even seeing you.

–Medical research that has willfully ignored seniors — risking your health and even your life.

Get the dirty little secrets — and how to protect yourself! — of a society that mostly prefers to warehouse and then forget its seniors.


Then, this “delightfully optimistic book” will open a world of great choices for you:

  • Retire — or don’t
  • Get credit (and respect!) for your life experiences
  • Get all the love, sex, and fun(!) you want
  • Learn how to age the way YOU want — whether others approve or not.
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How seniors are forced into involuntary guardianships

Involuntary guardianships are a problem for ANYONE in the 70+ age bracket. But they are even more a problem for:

  • Those living alone — because you don’t have that spouse/partner as a first level of defense.
  • Anyone who appears (to a casual observer or a cyber stalker) to have a nice nest egg.

Involuntary guardianships were established to help people who can no longer care for themselves. But they have become, according to The Con Game — A Failure of Trust, “An open invitation to potential abuse.”

Here are just some of the problems that make this legal procedure unconscionable in how it is administered:

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Joys & Challenges in Aging Alone


Aging alone can be wonderful — or terrible.

It can be Frank Sinatra singing, “I did it my way.” It can be a house that contains exactly what you want, in the style you want, with the pets you want. It can be days full of eating exactly what and when you want — while doing the hobbies and supporting the causes you want. It can also be filled with friends YOU choose.

Or… it can be loneliness (and boredom) so overwhelming you sink into dementia just to avoid your life. Continue reading “Joys & Challenges in Aging Alone”

Finding your senior love-mate


Aah… the bloom of new love.

There’s nothing like it. Everything is more vibrant — more exciting. For many, life never feels “right” without a significant other in it.

My mother, in a moment of brutal honesty, once said she’d be married to my dad or she’d be married to someone else — but she WOULD be married. And she was, through three husbands, until her soul-mate third husband died… Continue reading “Finding your senior love-mate”

How to find the best volunteer opportunities for you


There are so very many volunteer choices that it’s easy to get paralyzed by the idea of finding the “perfect” choice for ourselves. We can spend hours thinking of the good — and the bad — of each idea. And… end up doing none.

So this post will highlight all the many choices you have — but also give you a way to weed through them so you find those that will give you the most satisfaction. Continue reading “How to find the best volunteer opportunities for you”

Dance — Like Nobody’s Watching!

What’s not to like about something that is fun, improves your health, reduces your risks of dementia, and — did we mention? — is FUN?


It’s certainly needed. A study by USC’s School of Gerontology found less than 1/3 of adults from 65-74 were physically active. From 75+, less than 1/6 of us were physically active.

Dance is something we can easily do when stuck at home — because of a pandemic or because of one’s health. And it’s fun — so we’re more likely to keep doing it. And… there are many more benefits. Continue reading “Dance — Like Nobody’s Watching!”

Exercise plans for 60+ — Beware personal trainers!

Yes, we need to exercise(!) Yes, it’s shown to help prevent/delay Alzheimer’s, strokes, heart attacks, and pretty much any other body ill except, maybe, toe fungus. Yes, people who moved to 10,000 steps a day were found 46% less likely to die in the next 10 years than those who stay sedentary.

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But… what does that mean for your body and your health? There are 80-year-olds running marathons. And others who can’t walk across the room. So what’s possible — and what’s reasonable to expect? Continue reading “Exercise plans for 60+ — Beware personal trainers!”

Never Retire! Jobs that won’t kick seniors to the curb

african-american-businessman-smiling-on-grey-picture-id1138563417If you’re considering a late career job change, why not switch to a job that is less likely to force out seniors in order to replace them with cheaper labor?

Yes, it’s come to this. The baby boomer generation who was determined to “Never trust anyone over 30” is getting the same (or worse) disrespect from Gen Xers. Worse because they want to fire us, not just insult us(!)

Should you WANT to never retire?

You can make a good case for never retiring. One reason is your life expectancy. There’s no percentage consensus in the research, but studies have found everywhere from a 20-37% increased risk of early death from those who “retire early” — meaning before 65. Continue reading “Never Retire! Jobs that won’t kick seniors to the curb”