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Your advice is desperately needed!

I’ve compiled contents from my SeniorDefender.net blog plus a bunch of new material into a book I’m about to publish. But I’m absolutely stumped on the best cover for the book. Could you please look at these two covers, and answer the short 3-question survey below? I thank you very much for your time!

Joys & Challenges in Aging Alone

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Aging alone can be wonderful — or terrible.

It can be Frank Sinatra singing, “I did it my way.” It can be a house that contains exactly what you want, in the style you want, with the pets you want. It can be days full of eating exactly what and when you want — while doing the hobbies and supporting the causes you want. It can also be filled with friends YOU choose.

Or… it can be loneliness (and boredom) so overwhelming you sink into dementia just to avoid your life. Continue reading “Joys & Challenges in Aging Alone”

Finding your senior love-mate

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Aah… the bloom of new love.

There’s nothing like it. Everything is more vibrant — more exciting. For many, life never feels “right” without a significant other in it.

My mother, in a moment of brutal honesty, once said she’d be married to my dad or she’d be married to someone else — but she WOULD be married. And she was, through three husbands, until her soul-mate third husband died… Continue reading “Finding your senior love-mate”

How to find the best volunteer opportunities for you

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There are so very many volunteer choices that it’s easy to get paralyzed by the idea of finding the “perfect” choice for ourselves. We can spend hours thinking of the good — and the bad — of each idea. And… end up doing none.

So this post will highlight all the many choices you have — but also give you a way to weed through them so you find those that will give you the most satisfaction. Continue reading “How to find the best volunteer opportunities for you”

Dance — Like Nobody’s Watching!

What’s not to like about something that is fun, improves your health, reduces your risks of dementia, and — did we mention? — is FUN?

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It’s certainly needed. A study by USC’s School of Gerontology found less than 1/3 of adults from 65-74 were physically active. From 75+, less than 1/6 of us were physically active.

Dance is something we can easily do when stuck at home — because of a pandemic or because of one’s health. And it’s fun — so we’re more likely to keep doing it. And… there are many more benefits. Continue reading “Dance — Like Nobody’s Watching!”

Exercise plans for 60+ — Beware personal trainers!

Yes, we need to exercise(!) Yes, it’s shown to help prevent/delay Alzheimer’s, strokes, heart attacks, and pretty much any other body ill except, maybe, toe fungus. Yes, people who moved to 10,000 steps a day were found 46% less likely to die in the next 10 years than those who stay sedentary.

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But… what does that mean for your body and your health? There are 80-year-olds running marathons. And others who can’t walk across the room. So what’s possible — and what’s reasonable to expect? Continue reading “Exercise plans for 60+ — Beware personal trainers!”

Never Retire! Jobs that won’t kick seniors to the curb

african-american-businessman-smiling-on-grey-picture-id1138563417If you’re considering a late career job change, why not switch to a job that is less likely to force out seniors in order to replace them with cheaper labor?

Yes, it’s come to this. The baby boomer generation who was determined to “Never trust anyone over 30” is getting the same (or worse) disrespect from Gen Xers. Worse because they want to fire us, not just insult us(!)

Should you WANT to never retire?

You can make a good case for never retiring. One reason is your life expectancy. There’s no percentage consensus in the research, but studies have found everywhere from a 20-37% increased risk of early death from those who “retire early” — meaning before 65. Continue reading “Never Retire! Jobs that won’t kick seniors to the curb”

Are we all crazy?

Paranoia_shutterstock_266683784Have you heard the theory that COVID-19 was cooked up in a lab by Democrats who were so upset they couldn’t get rid of Trump through impeachment — that they decided to poison the world and kill off 200,000 of us just to influence the coming U.S. election?

This was just explained to me as fact by a friend of mine. He also told me other “facts” — some of which the NY Times reports are disinformation being spread by Russian trolls to undermine America.

Another friend recently warned me about 5G for wireless phones. She sent me this: Continue reading “Are we all crazy?”

Empty Calendar Syndrome? Time to Draw up Your Bucket list?

I’m just stunned as I write this. It’s a Friday, and Monday will be my official retirement date. This is not a surprise — I gave my notice (as academics do) almost 11 months ago. But I just opened my calendar to the coming month and what did I see?

Absolutely nothing.

It really gave me a chill — which is bewildering. Because, duh! That’s what retirement is, right? No job. No meetings. No assignments. Just — to quote some of my retired friends — complete freedom. Continue reading “Empty Calendar Syndrome? Time to Draw up Your Bucket list?”